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Why You Should Never Give Up on Love

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YOU ARE WIRED FOR LOVE.
Although you may feel skittish about romance after disappointments, it is human nature to seek companionship and comfort in the arms of another. “People are wired for love, that’s why they keep coming back, despite heartbreaks and losses.

YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT’S AROUND THE CORNER.
It may take some work to open yourself up again to love, but romance can show up in places you never imagined, and feelings can develop unexpectedly. “The one thing that comes up again and again are love stories in which the people involved found love unexpectedly.Many people who had given up on love surprised themselves and found they could fall in love again. The human heart, however damaged, still can start beating again under the right circumstances.”

YOU CAN SUSPEND FEARS.
It is natural to want to protect yourself with emotional armor but ultimately you also have to be willing to risk being vulnerable with another. “When we are in fear we become defensive, shut down and can unintentionally push people away,” says Kouffman Sherman. “It is very important to be open to love.”

YOU CAN REACH BEYOND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
who met her true love at 44 and was a first-time bride at 45, now writes and teaches about soulmates. “People can find ‘big love’ at any age,” she says, “if they’re willing to let go of limiting beliefs such as, “I’m too old, I’m too fat, I’m too damaged, or all the good ones are taken.” Ford, author of Turn You Mate into Your Soulmate, says “I literally tell people to say, ‘Cancel, cancel, cancel.'” Halting the language that defeats relationship goals helps in attaining them.

YOU CAN ASK FRIENDS TO HOLD HOPE FOR YOU.
If you have lost all faith, perhaps a friend can help. “Sometimes you just can’t hope for yourself, but you can for someone else,” says Kagan. “One of the best gifts I’ve ever received came from a friend after I’d had a particularly bad breakup. She told me, ‘I know you can’t believe right now, but I know someone special is on his way to you.’ And you know that friend was in the front row at our wedding,” she says.

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